Remember as a kid you could write your “I want” list for Christmas? It was easy. You didn’t restrict yourself. You didn’t judge your desires on whether it would make you happy for more than 5 minutes or whether it was value for money. it didn’t matter whether it would last or not. And I highly doubt you put much effort into convincing yourself that you don’t “really” need it.
But if I asked you to write an “I want” list now, you’d restrict yourself by the above and you’d throw whether it was socially acceptable, whether its appropriate at your age and whether it was high on your list of priorities.
With all these restrictions, we’ve taught ourselves to not dream too big, not to have any big desires. We lost the ability to daydream about the future. We’re taught to be realistic, to work hard, pay the bills and now we believe that you don’t always get what you want. We worry about the future and often prepare ourselves for the worst.
When I started my personal growth path, I really struggled because I keep being told to set goals and focus all of my energy towards them. I didn’t struggle because I didn’t understand the concept, I couldn’t set any goals because I hadn’t thought about what I wanted in such a long time. I had absolutely no idea of what I wanted.
I realised that I had lost my ability to daydream. At some point in my adult life, I’d started listening to the people around me. I’d focused solely on my outer world, being busy doing the “mum thing”, the “entrepreneur thing” As far as I was aware my aim was simple. Work hard, give all your energy to running the house, sort out the kids and try to grow a business.
People would ask me what I wanted for my birthday and Christmas and I replied “no idea!”. Honestly, I didn’t know because I’d never allowed myself to take the time to dream and discover what I want.
So back in June, I started my first ever “I want” list. I really struggled at first, my brain automatically censored itself. But eventually, I was writing about the most trivial things. I wrote 4 A5 sides of paper in my notebook. Do I have everything I wanted from last June – nope. And that’s not the I want
Do I have everything I wanted from last June – nope. And that’s not the I want list is for. Sure pull something off it when someone wants to buy you something or you want to spend some spare cash. But the most powerful thing I want list does for you is it allows you to dream. It gives you a better sense of yourself. It becomes clear what’s important to you and what you only thought was important to you.
I do my “i want” list at the beginning of each month and I’ll add to it throughout the month. If I got something off the list, then I’d tick it off but I prefer to see it as an ever-evolving wish list that shows you with increasing precision what you want from life, from your physical spaces, your relationships and how to find fulfilment.
I hope you find your own list useful, even if you just do it the once, you might surprise yourself what you write down.
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